My husband had a job where he commuted from Detroit to Winston Salem, North Carolina for 7 years. Just prior to my diagnosis he accepted another position where traveling would be limited. Okay I’ll admit, it took some adjusting to having him home ALL the time. I had 7 years of Monday night through Thursday all to myself. I mean an entire bed to myself, watching any television shows I wanted, no pressure to make dinner and a welcome home honeymoon every Thursday night. Whoo hoo!
Looking back, changing jobs was actually a godsend when going through treatment. I got to have my rock with me 24/7. (albeit with adjustments being made with us being together 24/7!).
Bob had to travel to Houston and was packing for his trip. He wasn’t happy, grumbling under his breath and finally he said “I hate traveling! I don’t like doing this! I'm tired of it!”
I will admit I wasn’t in the mood for the pity party. I mean I was going to radiation every day, going to therapy twice a week and in a cast for a broken ankle. My life could suck right now but you know what? It doesn’t. Besides being grateful for being here, I’m having fun. Yes you heard it – I’m having fun while I go through treatment. I made the decision when this first started that I would have fun. I listen to peppy, upbeat music prior to leaving to set my mood. I hum a little ditty while walking in to change and I smile and say hello to all I meet. I want to enjoy this journey.
So I look at my husband and say “Make it fun”. He looks at me confused. I tell him – “Do you really think I want to go be radiated every day? Or go to therapy or gimp around with a broken ankle? No – I don’t but I make it fun. I have fun with it. I hum and maybe even dance a little walking down to radiation, the same with going to therapy for the lymphedema. I can dance in my cast like no other. Bottom line – I’m enjoying my life even though I’m going through something horrendous. I tell him “Attitude is everything” and you know what? It is!